Sexual sin is one of the most powerful sins that we as human beings can participate in. It infiltrates us to the deepest core of our soul and we do not even realize the effect that it is having on us. Scientific study of sex has shown that when sexual sin is going on between two human beings the chemicals released during sex can be similar to those of many addictive drugs.
The Apostle Paul is very thorough on the sexual sin issue. He writes in 1 Corinthians 6:18: "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexually sin against their own bodies." You may be asking yourself at this point "What is this guy getting at?" Well here we go.
Sex was designed for two very specific reasons. One, the husband and the wife were to become one through sexual intercourse and connect emotionally and physically through the sexual experience. Two, it was designed for the purpose of creating and sustaining human life. Creating little human beings called babies.
Many people believe that the sexual revolution began in the 1960's. This would be an understatement at best. It has it's roots in the 1920's. This is when women and men began to move away from the Victorian way of doing things and more towards a Freudian school of thought. Another key piece of equipment was introduced into this mix that gave Americans more freedom than ever before. The automobile gave the American more freedom to move around, travel, and socialize outside of established social circles. This created the current establishment of dating and moved away from the previous Victorian era of courting. When the human being receives more freedom and can move about as wanted they will challenge the barriers that have been established in the past. This easily paved the way for the ability for the human being to be tempted into having pre-marital sex.
Pre-marital sex causes problems in the most intimate place for a married couple, the bedroom. The reason for this is that men and women who have engaged in pre-marital sex often compare their sexual experiences with one partner to another. This can often lead to awkward and confrontational conversations between couples after they are married because their current partner cannot satisfy them the way they were in a previous relationship. As a aspiring college pastor I often hear younger adults say today "I need to test drive the car before I buy it." The simple fact is this. Human beings are not cars. Cars are cold machines made of steel, carbon fiber, and plastic. They are not human beings created by God, with a soul, and deep feelers of emotion. I do not understand how we as wonderful creations of God can lower ourselves to a creation of metal, carbon fiber, and plastic.
The amount of pre-marital sex out in the world today has desensitized us to what it means to develop a emotional and physical connection to the person we are choosing to be with. Rather we have decided that we should fulfill only the sexual desire that we feel we need. This can be seen in television, movies, and music that is being produced by the mainstream media. Recent examples of that include musical releases by artists such as Rihanna, 2 Chainz and many others.
In these videos released by the music industry you see multiple desensitized images of what sex is. Rather than sex being something that is sacred between a husband and wife it is treated like something that is meant to fulfill personal desire. There is nothing sacred in these presentations that are seen here. This is not the design that God has set forth for man and woman and the sexual relationship. Yes, we are supposed to enjoy each other sexually but not like this. Pre-marital sex has opened the floodgate for the degradation of women, degrading of the male as the head of the household, and images such as these. These images are having a lasting and terrible effect on the people who are seeing them. Children see these images and hear these lyrics from an early age, because many parents today fail to understand the lasting effects that entertainment like this are having on the future of society.
When speaking with many young people today I hear them say "The lyrics of a song do not really matter." or "I just listen to it for the beat." However, the people of today are so desensitized that they cannot grasp the amount of damage that is happening to their emotional and psychological well being. Also, their ability to have a healthy sexual relationship.
Abortion is a consequence of pre-marital sex. In 1973 their were 1.6 million abortions. In 1990 their were 1.6 million abortions resulting in what appears to be 43 million abortions since Roe v. Wade was decided by the Supreme Court. As I mentioned earlier sexual intercourse was created for two reasons. One of those is to create children. When a person engages in sexual intercourse they are possibly going to create a baby. However, in a world where the consequence of sin and self accountability have been thrown out the window the United States has chosen to believe that a baby with a heartbeat is not a human being. I have even heard an unborn child referred to as a "parasite" by a coworker because it is sucking the life out of the mother. Forty-Three million creations of God have been thrown in the trash, sucked out by vacuum cleaners and destroyed by any means necessary by doctors who have veiled the truth of God with a curtain of science.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases are a consequence of pre-marital sex. STD rates have skyrocketed since 1960. Prior to 1960 doctors in the United States were battling two major STD's in the United States according to ChristianLifeResources.com. Now their are over 30 different types of STD's in the U.S. alone. Twenty-five percent of sexually active teens have an STD, a 500% increase in herpes cases since 1976, HPV among young females has gone through the roof, five million new Americans will contract a new STD this year and 85% of those who contract that disease will not show any signs of it. This is alarming information. I believe every part of the Bible and in the Bible God brought plague and disease to people who had fallen away from Him. God is in control of everything and with God being in control of everything He has the power to bring disease and suffering to those who choose to live outside of His will. If you are involved in sexual sin you are living outside of His will.
Unwanted Pregnancy, Unwanted Marriages, and Divorce are all consequences of pre-marital sex. My dad always said this to me. "If you are not ready to provide for a family then you should not be having sex." When one becomes pregnant it is an emotional roller coaster. Children change every dynamic of the life that you thought you had. You might be "in love" with the person you are having sexual relations with but you might not quite be mentally ready for marriage. I have always asked young men and women "If you are not ready to be married why are you doing things only married people should do?" Here is the response I get. "Because it's fun."or "Because it feels good.". This is the wrong answer and it is the answer that Hollywood and mainstream media are preaching to our children. We allow ourselves to absorb it and let it bypass us rather than hit them head on and tell them "Enough is enough." Divorce is one of the most painful things a person can ever go through. I have a personal friend who has been divorced three times. Yes, three times. In all of those divorces he has felt defeated and depleted emotionally. I can only imagine the view or marriage a young man or woman would have if they were married at a young age because of an unwanted pregnancy and then divorced and faced to raise a child on their own. There are many other consequences to pre-marital sex but I will not preach on. Rather I will leave it with you the reader where you stand.
In closing. As a sensible human being I would never walk up to a hive full of angry bees and hit it with a baseball bat and stand around waiting to see what happened. Rather, I would leave the bee hive alone and carry on with my hike in the woods in a different direction. When we as human beings open ourselves up to sexual sin we open ourselves up to thousands of consequences that can destroy us spiritually, mentally, and physically. Much like a hive full of angry bees. God bless.
